What to Do When a Loved One is Struggling with Alcohol

Watching someone you care about spiral into alcoholism is heartbreaking. In Kenya, alcohol abuse—especially involving illicit brews like chang’aa and second-generation spirits—is a widespread problem affecting families across all regions. But while it’s easy to feel helpless, there are practical and compassionate steps you can take to support a loved one through recovery.

At Nyumba Yetu, we work with families and communities to help people battling addiction find their way back to health. Whether you’re a spouse, sibling, parent, or friend, here’s what you can do.

1. Recognize the Signs Early

Many people normalize alcohol consumption until it becomes dangerous. Common warning signs include:

• Drinking alone or in secrecy
• Neglecting responsibilities or relationships
• Sudden mood swings, aggression, or withdrawal
• Constant financial struggles due to drinking
• Physical signs like shakiness or fatigue

If you notice these signs, it’s time to act—gently, but firmly.

💡 Read more in our article: “Why Many Kenyan Men Drink – and How We Can Offer Alternatives”

2. Approach with Empathy, Not Judgment

Avoid confrontation or shaming. Addiction is not a moral failure—it’s a complex illness often tied to trauma, stress, or mental health. Try using non-threatening language:

“I’m worried about how much you’ve been drinking lately. Can we talk about it?”

Kenyan society often discourages men from being emotionally open, so creating a safe, non-judgmental space is crucial.

3. Involve the Family

In many Kenyan homes, family is central to decision-making. Gather support from close relatives who care deeply but can stay calm and solution-focused. Host a small family meeting to express concern and offer support—not ultimatums.

Explore how family involvement aids recovery in our article:
“The Role of Family in Addiction Recovery”

4. Encourage Professional Help

This step is critical. While community and faith-based support are helpful, professional intervention often leads to better outcomes. Options include:

• Rehab centres (public or private)
• Counselling and therapy
• Support groups like AA or local community programs

You can begin by reaching out to recovery support organizations like Nyumba Yetu, where we connect individuals with the right kind of help—holistic, accessible, and community-rooted.

5. Support, But Set Boundaries

You can’t force someone to quit, but you can make clear what you will and won’t tolerate. If alcohol use is affecting your safety or wellbeing, it’s okay to set firm boundaries. Let your loved one know:

“I’m here for you when you’re ready to get help. But I can’t keep enabling this behaviour.”

Protect your peace even as you offer help.

6. Join Support Networks

You don’t have to walk this road alone. Many other families are facing similar struggles. Join a support group or online community, and consider talking to a counsellor for your own mental health.

Visit our blog page to read stories from others who’ve been through the same.

Final Thoughts

Addiction recovery isn’t a straight path—it takes time, support, and consistency. The most important thing you can offer is compassionate presence. Your patience, encouragement, and understanding might be the bridge that helps your loved one choose recovery.

At Nyumba Yetu, we’re here to walk with both individuals and families through the journey of healing. If you’re unsure where to start, reach out through our contact page.